To the polygamous husband :This is what I want you to imagine coming out of ONE of your wives’ mouths one day when you come home.
“Hi honey, welcome home..
I just wanted to tell you about Abdullah. We got married. He is Yemeni. He loves me a lot and he is very handsome. By the way he is traveling right now and missed me so much that he sent me this card (look at pic). When he is returning he wants to have a baby. I love babies!! And one more thing sweety since his family is so poor back home I will have to take some of our money and give it to him so he can help them. So we can’t afford to save up for that new car you wanted. Sorry about that. You ok with all this? I love you.. “
It would be nice to see how someone would feel if they got a dose of their own medicine.
In domestic violence the abuse usually doesn’t end with the abuser.
Fear of an uncertain future and these circumstances often keeps women from leaving these relationships.
Because at the end of the day the women ask themselves “What are my alternatives? What will happen to me?”
The abuse usually continues with the community who doesn’t always support survivors.
The abuse continues with a court system that doesn’t protect the survivors.
The abuse continues with social workers who don’t understand domestic violence.
The abuse continues with friends and family who may blame the survivor.
The abuse continues through the poverty the survivor goes through after leaving due to lack of aid for these women.
The abuse continues through the emotional stress and struggles the survivor goes through raising her children alone.
So how do we encourage women to leave and sometimes save their lives and the lives of their children when these are the alternatives?
It looks pretty bleak right?
That’s why things have to change or women will keep on dying or suffer much more even after they leave.
Haven’t they been through enough?
I ran across an Anne Frank quote this morning and asked myself after reading it.. How would Anne Frank react to Gaza if she were alive today and what would she do? Here is the quote :
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. “~Anne Frank
Then I started searching for other quotes from Anne Frank. Here is the one in this picture :” Who has inflicted this upon us? Who has made Jews different from all other people? Who has allowed us to suffer so terribly up until now? It is God who has made us as we are, but it will be God, too, who will rise us up again. If we hear all this suffering and there are any Jews left, when it is over, then the Jews, instead of being doomed will be held up as an example. “~Anne Frank
Now these are the words of a child experiencing war, an unfair war of racism and discrimination against her people.
That’s change this quote a little and see if we can see how the children of Gaza might feel being in the same position as Anne Frank who was hiding from her enemies.
” Who has inflicted this upon us? Who has made Palestinians different from all other people? Who has allowed us to suffer so terribly up until now? It is God who has made us as we are, but it will be God, too, who will rise us up again. If we hear all this suffering and there are any Palestinians left, when it is over, then the Palestinians, instead of being doomed will be held up as an example. “
Atrocities are atrocities.. whether it’s against Jewish children, Muslim children or any other child. As we sympathize with figures like Anne Frank we should also sympathize with the children of Gaza who are hiding with bombs above their heads also.
ركضت عبر آن فرانك اقتبس هذا الصباح وسألت نفسي بعد قراءة ذلك .. كيف سيكون رد فعل آن فرانك لغزة لو كانت على قيد الحياة اليوم وماذا يمكن أن تفعل؟ هنا هو اقتباس:
“كم هو رائع ذلك هو أن لا أحد في حاجة إلى الانتظار لحظة واحدة قبل البدء في تحسين العالم.” ~ آن فرانك
بعد ذلك بدأت تبحث عن يقتبس أخرى من آن فرانك. هنا هو واحد في هذه الصورة: “من ألحق هذا علينا الذي جعل اليهود مختلفة من جميع الأشخاص الآخرين الذين قد سمح لنا أن يعاني حتى رهيب حتى الآن الله هو الذي جعلنا كما نحن، ولكن؟؟ سيكون من الله، أيضا، الذين سيرتفع لنا مرة أخرى إذا نحن نسمع كل هذه المعاناة وكان هناك أي تركها اليهود، وعندما انتهى، ثم اليهود، بدلا من أن مصيرها سوف تعقد ما يصل كمثال “. ~ آن فرانك
الآن هذه هي كلمات حربا الأطفال تعاني منها، حربا غير عادلة على العنصرية والتمييز ضد شعبها.
هذا هو تغيير هذا الاقتباس قليلا ونرى ما اذا كان يمكننا أن نرى كيف أن أطفال غزة قد تشعر يجري في نفس الموقف آن فرانك الذي كان يختبئ من الأعداء لها.
“من ألحق هذا علينا؟ الذي جعل مختلف الفلسطينيين من جميع الناس الآخرين؟ الذي أتاح لنا ذلك أن يعاني بشكل رهيب حتى الآن؟ الله هو الذي جعلنا كما نحن، ولكن سيكون من الله، أيضا، الذين سترتفع لنا مرة أخرى إذا نحن نسمع كل هذه المعاناة، وهناك ترك أي الفلسطينيين، عندما انتهى، ثم الفلسطينيين، بدلا من أن مصيرها سوف تعقد ما يصل كمثال “.
الفظائع الوحشية هي .. سواء كان ذلك ضد الأطفال اليهود والأطفال مسلم أو أي طفل آخر. ونحن نتعاطف مع شخصيات مثل آن فرانك ينبغي لنا أيضا أن نتعاطف مع أطفال غزة الذين يختبئون مع القنابل فوق رؤوسهم أيضا.
So I can in a Kosher restaurant on my street. The man who works there is helping me with my sugar.. being very cordial. He said, “Aren’t you hot in what you are wearing?” I replied, “No, I am used to it.” I turned to him and said, “You seem like a nice man can I ask you something?” He replied, “Sure.” “Why do people in this neighborhood hate me? Why do they harrass and glare at me?”He said, “I don’t think they hate you. It’s just with that dress they think you are Taliban or Iraq or something.” “They take pictures and glare. “” It’s the dress. “” But if you go to Queens and other parts of Brooklyn many people dress like this. This is America. Just like blacks and Spanish have moved here they must accept Muslims will live here too. They don’t own this area. I am thinking of moving. I am worried about my safety.”” Nothing will happen.Don’t move. But it reminds them of Arab.. and they are Jewish. “” But I am not Jewish.. I am American. “” But you weren’t always Muslim? “” No, my parents are Jewish. “He laughed,” Once Jewish, always Jewish. “I told him,” Then I am Jewish and Muslim, because now that I have converted I am Muslim. And my husband is Arab and he has no problem that my parents are Jewish. I don’t see why these people can’t accept me. “
#Jewish #Muslim #CrownHeights
Can a place or people make you hate yourself? Well, yes. I am a born Jew. I reverted to Islam. My family was never very religious. My father traveled to Israel but still ate pork and didn’t observe Sabbath. My stepmom who raised us with him was more religious, celebrating Hanukkah and Passover. I think now she spends much time at the synagogue. But I can definitely say my family wasn’t extreme. When I became Muslim my stepmother was ok about it. She had many Muslim friends. I had other Jewish friends who were a little weary because of their experiences with Israel and Palestine I suppose but they accepted it too. The Christians in my life actually took it worse.
But that was in Florida. Now I live in New York. I moved to #CrownHeights, #Brooklyn about 3 months ago. The community here is mostly #Hasidic #Jews. I had had no experience with them.
But I can say my experience with them has been quite unpleasant. They haven’t excepted me at all. With constant harrassment from the young men and sometimes even the women. I never knew Jews hated like this. Because I never experienced it before. But now I feel the hate. I feel it when I walk down the street and I get glares and screams. And I wonder what have I done just by being here.
Today I told a Jewish friend, “I am glad I am not Jewish! Ahamdulillah!”
Are these people causing me to hate myself? It’s pretty bad when someone who once treasured a gift brought back from Israel from her father says that.
I suppose we can only say hate drives out love. And that’s what these people have managed to do.
A #Jewish man in #CrownHeights started taking pictures of me. He followed me with his camera. I tryed to photograph him too. But couldn’t get a picture so I yelled to police nearby that the man was harrassing me. They just said “Why were you following him?” I told them he photographed me. I was trying to photograph him. They said that’s not illegal. My Jewish friend from the neighborhood just happened to be on the sidewalk. I told him what happened. He said go in that building and talk to a rabbi. I went inside. The Jewish women were rude, basically kicked me out and told me go to the police unit on the street. I went back to my friend and said to him, “They saw the way I was dressed. They asked if I was Jewish. When I said no, they wouldn’t let me see a Rabbi and kicked me out.”
He said, “Go to police department. These people might be taking pictures of you to attack you one night.”
As I was departing from him a Rabbi walked by. My friend said, “There is a Rabbi.” He explained the situation to him. The Rabbi said, “What can I do. I have nothing to do with it.”
It’s so bad they can’t even control their own people. This man who was harrassing me walked into the men’s section of the religious building I went into. I said to the people outside, “Don’t you have respect for women. Is this what you teach your Rabbi students?” It’s a shame their future “leaders” are scum and have no sense of community.
As I expressed discontent at a store that wouldn’t give me a receipt for my item in case I needed to exchange it a woman snarled, “A receipt for $5?!?”
I replied to her,” This is a business. Businesses are supposed to give receipts. That’s how business goes. “
But a few minutes later it made me think of why I wanted that receipt so badly. I didn’t want to waste the $5.Now to some of us $5 might not to be much but to myself it’s a lot and not only that there was a time I didn’t have $5 and many who don’t.
If we read the Quran we see we are rewarded for gratitude. And part of being grateful is to not waste your blessings and to protect them.
“. . . then when (Sulaiman (Solomon)) saw it placed before him, he said: “This is by the Grace of my Lord to test me whether I am grateful or ungrateful! And whoever is grateful, truly, his gratitude is for (the good of) his own self, and whoever is ungrateful, (he is ungrateful only for the loss of his own self). Certainly! My Lord is Rich (Free of all wants), Bountiful” [An-Naml: 40]
” If you give thanks (by accepting Faith and worshipping none but Allah), I will give you more (of My Blessings); but if you are thankless, verily, My punishment is indeed severe’” [Ibraaheem 14:7]
So it’s important that even if we get a penny, just as we wouldn’t waste food as our Prophet (SAW) has instructed us that we don’t waste it.
Remember there are may in places like Syria and Palestine that would love to have your $5..be thankful that Allah granted you with it.