“There are not enough women for men.. “

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I met a man with four wives and I asked him, “Do you ever think about how your wives feel?”
He said, “There are not enough men for women so I am doing them a favor.”
“That’s if the whole world were Muslim. There aren’t enough Muslim men because they keep marrying Kufrs. But definitely around here there are more Muslim brothers than sisters. Anyways don’t you think they want someone all to themselves. Let someone else marry them. There are plenty of men. “
” They might not be Halal for them. I am Halal. And they all asked me to marry them. “
” So you are doing them a favor, “I laughed.” A woman doesn’t need you. “
” I am not going to turn down an offer like that. Anyways don’t you get lonely at night and want someone. Better than them doing Haram. “
” Then let them find someone else.. Look outside there is that guy that guy.. guys everywhere. “
The guy sitting next to us was laughing.
I said,” You’re doing a “great deed”  out of horniness, calling it #polygamy and saying it’s part of #Islam. “
” I am providing for them. “
” Once again they don’t NEED you. “
” They aren’t complaining. “
The non Muslim man and me both said,” They don’t know about each other!! “
I said,” This is a small community she is going to find out one day. And you know a woman can make you sign a contract before marriage saying you won’t marry others. (Though I think he married that one after the others.) “
” Asughfurallah.. That’s against Islam. “
” No it isn’t. See you take Shariah and apply what you want. You like four wives so you have them. So you claim this is a jihad for women and a showing of faith. “I roll my eyes.

What’s your opinion on this conversation?

I wish

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I wish..
I wish I were the apple of your eye..
I wish..
I wish you never wanted to tell me goodbye
I wish..
But now all I do is cry…
I wish..
As I hope my feelings for you will die..
I wish…
Like dreams as big as the sea..
I wish..
For you and I to be..
I wish..
I tell my heart please set me free..
I wish..
But I suppose only time has the key..
I wish..
Dreaming of you in the night..
I wish…
That you would be out of my sight..
I wish..
I wish because pain is what I am feel all day..
I wish..
That you would either go or stay.
#love #relationships

An inspirational young man

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I want to share a real inspirational story with you. This is Rassul. He works part-time at Family Dollar in #CrownHeights #Brooklyn . But unlike his co-workers he is #deaf. That means he can’t hear anything. I think he is mute also because I never hear him speak and we communicated through writing.
But regardless of these disabilities he works very effectively. I don’t believe the store workers know sign language but his boss says “I can’t stop talking about him” with a smile and much pride.
I notice he (Rassul)  has kind of used his own way of pointing and gesturing to communicate with them and them the same. He does jobs that don’t necessarily need speaking such as stocking rather than cashering. And if someone like I have done in the past needs to ask a question he knows how to direct them to appropriate staff.
That’s the thing I love about this country. Rassul is from Trinidad. I don’t know if there he would have the same opportunities but in America we see him as one of us not just someone with a disability.


We Muslims should do Dawah like that

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As BAD as their religion is they are great at “#Dawah”. I believe and I could be incorrect but it is required by them #JehovahWitnesses that everyone do outreach. Wallahe I walk Eastern Parkway everyday and I always see about 20 or 30 of them sometimes even more with their pamphlets ministering. Plus they come and go through my building constantly.
IF only Muslims did Dawah like this. It takes more than social media to touch the public. And in New York ANYONE can set up a stand in public or preach in public without a permit. So people who have time and a little money really have no excuse.
I salute people like a few Pakistanis I saw in Jackson Heights one day who were ministering and had a table out with pamphlets.
Spreading our Deen shouldn’t be something we feel forced to do it should be something we want to do.
I hear from many they don’t do this because their English is not good. Well, you know how many Arabs and Asians are Christian or have left Islam.. lots. So if you seek an opportunity to do Dawah believe me Allah will put people in your path.
I also hear the excuse I don’t have enough knowledge. Do you think these people are experts in their religion? Probably a lot not. It’s not always the fatwas people need to hear. It’s the personal stories. That’s why connnecting on a personal level is so important. You can always refer them to a book, mosque or website.
May Allah guide everyone to #Islam and increase our #Deen Inshallah.
#CrownHeights #Brooklyn

Something VERY scary for Muslims on social media

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Besides the people on #socialmedia trying to trap #Muslims into inappropriate relationships, pretending to be someone they aren’t, spying on Muslims, causing Fitna between Muslims and exposing Muslims to things like pornography there is also something else very scary for Muslims that is a growing trend.
Many people have touched on this subject. But I want to say something about it. Many Muslims or perhaps non Muslims in an attempt to get more followers or become more popular are making their own fatwas. And they are just put the disclaimer “Allah knows best”.
There is one example I saw earlier this morning that really disturbed me. Actually it started yesterday. A Nasheed singer with 113K followers said he would answer an Islamic question the following day. He stated it and asked people to comment on it. So of course people did. So I checked his page today to see his opinion. Of course his answer to everyone was a complete twisting of Hadiths and Quran.
So to some of his 113K followers who might have done something one way for a long time this might change that to the wrong way based on  the excuse this young man has given them.
THIS is a real danger of social media, especially for the youth who are especially vulnerable. An attractive face and someone who CLAIMS they are trying to be a good Muslim and have Islamic knowledge is often an easy trap. And I see on social media sooooo many people offering advice on this that and the other thing.. half of the things I am shaking my head to saying that person hasn’t even had that experience yet.
So before you give advice on social media or start a page quoting yourself THINK am I qualified? And before you listen to someone THINK is he or she qualified? Or it just another page looking for more followers by bringing up a popular topic.

What separartes us Muslims from Christians?

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Is that knowledge you learned at the mosque when you were a child or when you reverted is it really just wasted education? I find some people can quote the Prophet (SAW) and have done a lot of research on Islamic things. They may have “more knowledge” than others BUT they are applying none or very little of it.
Some Muslims are the greatest excuse makers. But I think the answer to these excuses is we ALL go through this as Muslims.We are all tempted. We are all tired at times. We all get sick of trying. BUT yet some of us don’t give up and conform to non-Muslim values of society.
Life as a Muslim is and always will be a jihad. We have been persecuted and rejected from the beginning. The world has never made it easy to be Muslim. But we must think about the end result. And we must ask ourselves if we really believe this then why aren’t we doing it?

Jews are the same way in America as they are in Israel.

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What’s the main problem in #Israel… bottom line? The #Jews don’t want to share the land. They want everything their way. They only want their people and their community there.
WELL, I live in a #HasidicJewish neighborhood and I find the same to be true here too.
Beside the fact that I am photographed and harrassed I am constantly asked if I am Jewish. And when I saw no… I am harrassed more.
Now you might say ok.. it’s because she is Muslim. And I agree me being Muslim does irritate them.. and the niqab also. But it’s not just that.It is just the fact that I am NOT Jewish.
This area has had a long history of tensions between Jews and people of different races and religions. So not only can they not except Muslims and niqabs but add to that blacks and probably everyone else.
So just like in Israel they don’t want us here. They show it. And at times they try to make our lives miserable.
Then I had one say to me today a Muslim would never let a Jew live in their neighborhood. Come to New York.. you will never see a Muslim kick a Jew out of their neighborhood.
#Islamophobia #discrimination #racism #CrownHeights #Brooklyn